Partners in Living Programs

The possibility of the Partners in Living courses is for couples to create an enduring, fulfilling partnership in their marriage or in their committed relationship.  The Partners in Living courses provide couples an opportunity for them to expand possibility, passion and partnership in their relationship. The Partners in Living programs are offered to individual couples and to small and large groups of couples.  Information about the Partners in Living programs are outlined below.

connection, commitment and couple-ness

In Stage 1 of partnership marriage, the central conversations for the couple are conversations for “connection, commitment and couple-ness.” In this Partners in Living program, couples have conversations in which they can explore what is important to them, create the “us-ness” of the relationship, clarify their commitments to each other, and be powerfully connected. In relationship with a coach, the couple learns to listen to each other and to the quality of their relationship, create a loving and safe space for intimacy, establish clear boundaries, create time to nurture their couple-ness and express appreciation with each other.

teamwork, workability and the future

In Stage 2 of partnership marriage, the key conversations for the couple are conversations for “teamwork, workability and the future.” In this Partners in Living course, couples explore their unexamined ideas and expectations about marriage, create their new marriage as a matter of their word, explore the workability in their marriage, and to create a powerful sense of team. In relationship with a coach, couples learn to expand their own self-awareness, solve problems together, create a new vision of their future, and design projects that fulfill the future they are committed to.

success, happiness and personal development

In Stage 3 of partnership marriage, the essential conversations for the couple are conversations for “success, happiness and personal development.” In this Partners in Living course, a coach works with couples to be responsible for their own happiness and to expand self-awareness by identifying disempowering patterns of thinking and ways of being that get in the way of effectively communicating, solving problems, and resolving conflicts.  Each couple learns to identify and transform disempowering assumptions and perspectives, engage in compassionate communication, and resolve conflicts and problems that leave both partners and their relationship nurtured.  Couples in this course learn to align with each other’s visions of happiness and success, declare their commitment to each other and their marriage and celebrate both their own individuality and what is special about their relationship.

alignment, balance and partnership

In Stage 4 of partnership marriage, the central conversations for the couple are conversations for “alignment, balance and partnership.” In this Partners in Living course, a coach assists couples to explore areas of their life together where partnership is absent and where partnership is present. In their relationship with a coach, couples learn to be in alignment around what works in their marriage, their values, their vision, and their commitments while at the same time balance all that they are responsible and accountable for.  They learn to be powerful partners in creating a long-term vision for their life together and create partnership projects to manifest their dreams. Couples also learn to powerfully co-create contexts that give them the experience that what they have in their relationship is sufficient to master all the challenges that will come their way.

passion, fulfillment and contribution

In Stage 5 of partnership marriage, the important conversations for the couple are conversations for “passion, fulfillment and contribution.”  In this Partners in Living course, a coach works with couples that have grown children to explore and to master the challenges of living in the Empty Nest period of their lives. Couples can be coached in re-examining at what is important to them at this stage. In this program, couples learn to express the wisdom of their relationship, design empowering perspectives for tackling new challenges, create a vision for this stage in their life and fulfill partnership projects that give them shared meaning and a sense of fulfillment. Couples develop their purpose anew and contribute in ways they have never imagined before.

completion, wisdom and legacy

In Stage 6 of partnership marriage, the key conversations for the couple are conversations for “completion, wisdom and legacy.” In this Partners in Living course, couples take stock of their lives at this time in life and examine their life and relationship in a larger community context.  Couples specifically focus on taking care of their health and well being, staying connected to family and friends, exploring a new sense of playfulness, and talking about the legacy they are leaving to their family and friends. A coach assists couples in having conversations for being complete and for being appreciative of all that they have shared in life.

If you are interested in learning more about my work with couples, visit my Partnership Marriage Resources page, where you can see a short video of me speaking about partnership marriage and find complimentary papers outlining various tools for couples to use in designing their partnership.